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title: "Let’s Talk: People Pleasing"
canonical: "https://wordfirst.org/podcasts/lets-talk/lets-talk-people-pleasing/"
pubDate: "2021-02-19T00:03:00.000Z"
updatedDate: "2021-02-19T10:36:53.000Z"
description: "Jackie Hill Perry, Jasmine Holmes, and Melissa Kruger talk about why people pleasing is often sinful and how to break free of living for other’s approval."
categories: ["Let's Talk"]
---

It’s not a bad thing to want to please others. So when do we cross a line into sinful people-pleasing? Jasmine Holmes puts it succinctly: “It’s when your identity is founded on other people’s perception of you.”

On this episode of Let’s Talk, Jasmine, Jackie, and Melissa all confess to people-pleasing tendencies that can become sin, though each faces different temptations. It’s helpful to understand how your personality and gifting may bring with them a related temptation. Melissa shares that, in her own life, she has learned that it’s possible to be *nice* to people in a way that isn’t actually *kind*. The women also discuss how people-pleasing affects parenting, and what they hope for their kids as they grow in independence.

**Related Resources**

- [6 Ways to Smash the Approval Idol](https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/6-ways-to-smash-approval-idol/)
- [How Can I Be a Workplace Servant But Not a Doormat?](https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/servant-not-doormat/)
- [Personality Tests Don’t Excuse Your Sin](https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/servant-not-doormat/)
- [Exchanging Fear for Fear](https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/kevin-deyoung/exchanging-fear-for-fear/)